I have a friend, who is also studying abroad, like me, the difference is he is sent by our government. He told me, he’d rather die, than go back now.
He told me the reason: to maintain a similar lifestyle like here, assume he has a stable income, he needs at least 5,000,000 yuan(817,460 AUS dollars), to afford a decent apartment, 3,000,000 yuan(real estate), by the way, the price of real estate is ridiculous nowadays; to have a decent wedding, and some cost of raising a baby, another 1,000,000 yuan; some money for parents, to appreciate their great efforts during his growth, another 1,000,000 yuan.
That’s not exaggerating at all. He doesn’t need a luxury life, only a relatively similar lifestyle as here can quite satisfy him.
In most people’s opinion in my country, studying abroad is something unusual, in a good way: either from a rich family, or smarter than other peers. Actually, it not all right. There are many cases like my friend, sent by the government. If fortunately, can successfully apply scholarship, can assure several years of accommodation fees, if not, it will cost a fortune, it can be the saving of the whole life’s saving of their parents plus weary part-time jobs. On the other hand, the situations abroad may not be so good, the fruitless research can lead to immediate end of the life of studying abroad, and it happens a lot.
After study abroad, another problem the students have to confront is going back, what will happen after going back? After usually years of hard work, most students expect to have a good opportunity to apply what they have learned, however, in the markets nowadays, graduates with studying abroad backgrounds are not popular. They are facing the same problem as other domestic graduates– hard to find a job. It is not difficult to imagine, before they study abroad, they are saturated with all kinds of expectations from parents, relatives, friends, without any achievements, this kind of embarresment literally kill Chinese. So many of them choose to stay.
Thus, many of them are under lots of pressure, to meet the expectations from home country, and from themselves. To avoid the expectations, to avoid the steep price of real estate, to avoid the ill-developed medical, educational system, they choose to lead a wandering life abroad.
Ultimately, some students are accused havent studied hard enough, or aim at the moon, but maybe, there are too much pressure on them. more than they can afford.